This Dad cut off all his daughter's hair after she went and got highlights



This Dad cut off all his daughter’s hair after she went and got highlights

A birthday is supposed to be a joyous occasion full of cake, presents, and all of your nearest and dearest family and friends. For one 13-year old girl, she found herself eagerly anticipating her upcoming birthday. There was something she had wanted for a long time and she was pretty sure her mom was finally going to allow it. However, instead of her birthday being completely magical something terrible happened which would affect her for a very long time. Different parenting styles can have some major effects, especially if the parents are no longer together and if step-parents get involved. Keep reading to find out what happened on this fateful birthday.

Meet Kelsey


At the center of this story is Kelsey Fredrick. Her parents had been divorced for a while which had never been a problem for her. She had a loving mom and dad who she got to see on a regular basis and both provided her with everything that a 13-year old could need.
Meet Kelsey

In fact, since her birthday was such a big deal both her mom and her dad said she could have a birthday party at theirs.

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A Party With Each Parent


You only turn 13 once and it marks the transition from childhood to the teenage years. Since her parents’ divorce Kelsey had been allowed to have a birthday party at the homes of her mom and her dad. She always enjoyed getting to see her friends twice, have two birthday cakes, and double the presents.
A Party With Each Parent

This year called for something different though. She didn’t want to have the same kind of parties she had had the past couple of years and instead wanted to mix it up and have a slumber party with her closest girlfriends. This seemed like the perfect way to ring in her birthday.

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Blonde Locks


The one thing that Kelsey wanted above anything else for her birthday was blonde highlights. She had been growing her hair out for a while and her other friends had started to dye their hair and highlight it. Her natural hair color was a light brunette bordering on ‘dirty blonde’.

Some light blonde highlights would really add something extra and she was very excited to finally get the highlights she had wanted for such a long time. Her mom agreed that this would be her birthday gift this year. Kelsey set off for the salon and could not wait to see how different she looked with lighter hair.
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A Problem


There was one problem though that both Kelsey and her mom could never have imagined would escalate the way it did. As it was Kelsey’s hair and her wish to dye it, her mother did not feel that she had to tell Kelsey’s dad that she was getting highlights for her birthday.
A Problem

After Kelsey was finished getting them it was time for her to spend the night with her dad and her stepfamily. They had planned to have a small family celebration together as they did each year. What Kelsey’s father and his wife would say and do when they saw her hair is almost unimaginable.
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Joint Custody


Kelsey had always enjoyed spending time with her dad. They were extremely close even though her parents had separated when she was quite young. Her parents had joint custody of her which meant she would alternate weekends with each parent. This weekend was her dad’s which was just fine.
Joint Custody

He could tell her how gorgeous her hair looks, eat some cake together, and just have a nice father-daughter bonding time. Unfortunately, this is not what happened when Kelsey arrived on her father’s doorstep. So what did happen when Kelsey showed up for her weekend with her dad which turned her birthday into a nightmare?
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The Step Family


After a few years of being divorced, Kelsey’s dad decided to remarry and start another family. His new wife was always friendly towards Kelsey and made her feel welcome in their home. Her father and his wife had three small sons of their own and Kelsey really enjoyed playing with them and going on big family outings.

It seemed like this was the best stepfamily she could have ever hoped for. Everyone was close and they got on well.
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Like Mother, Like Daughter


It was undeniable that Kelsey and her mom were a bit closer than she and her dad. Her mom had spent the majority of her time raising Kelsey and making sure she was there for her every step of the way. If Kelsey had a problem or a personal issue with one of her friends her mom would be the first person she went to.

Her dad simply did not seem to care about some of the things she was going through the way her mom did.
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The Rules


Schaffen and Christin, Kelsey’s parents had tried to keep things amicable during the divorce and after. This meant that they had to set some parenting ground rules that they would both follow to make sure Kelsey would not be confused about what was expected of her.
The Rules

These rules included what discipline they would both use and what issues would require discipline. It seemed like they were on the same page and until this birthday they were.
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The Step Mom


Schaffen’s wife was a former workmate of his as he was a fireman by trade. They both met on the job and instantly fell in love. It seemed to be a match made in heaven. Kelsey was happy her dad had found happiness and enjoyed getting to know her stepmom who was now an important part of her life to.
The Step Mom

The only thing that would have to be agreed on was that the stepmom would parent Kelsey the way Schaffen and Christin had agreed to.
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Role Models


It is important that children have great role models in their lives as they need people to look up to. Kelsey was blessed with three: her mom, her aunt, and her godmother. Her Aunt Kelly, and godmother, Hayley Ann were always around for Kelly.

All she needed to do was give them a call and they would be by her side or give her some advice over the phone. She would really need some over what happened on her birthday.
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Welcome To Fostoria


Both families lived in Fostoria, Ohio which meant that Kelsey could quickly get from her dad’s house to her mom’s house and vice versa. This would be particularly important when Kelsey called her mom needing her to come and get her right away.
Welcome To Fostoria

It is now time to look at exactly what happened on that day. The highlights are what led to Kelsey having possibly the worst birthday of her young life when she arrived at Schaffen’s house.
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Time For Some Pampering


Before Kelsey arrived at her dad’s she had her hair dramatically highlighted with light blonde streaks but she also had her nails done and some makeup applied while at the salon. Her mom and she had made a day of it and chose matching nail polish as well as blonde highlights.
Time For Some Pampering

At the end of all those beauty treatments, it was time for Kelsey to show her dad her new hair and see what he thought of it. She was positive he would love it.
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A Blonde Beauty


The highlights had really transformed Kelsey. Her hair was now a shimmering cascade of blonde waves which made her blue eyes pop and it was the most beautiful Kelsey had ever looked. Everyone at the salon complimented her and told her that it truly suited her.
A Blonde Beauty

It had taken hours to achieve the exact shade of blonde that would suit Kelsey’s fair skin and the makeover was pretty impressive.
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A Facebook Photo


Unbeknownst to Kelsey, her father had already seen her new hair, nails, and makeup. Her mother had been taking photos of Kelsey all throughout the day and decided to post one of her ‘after’ look. Schaffen had seen the photo as he scrolled through Facebook and had barely recognized his daughter.

This would be the catalyst for what was to come when Kelsey finally got to her father’s house. Now, it is time to see Schaffen’s reaction.
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Cellular Silence


Christin had not heard from Kelsey since she got to her dad’s and was curious to hear about his reaction to her new hair. She checked her phone and did not see any messages from Kelsey which wasn’t abnormal as she was not a bit texter but something did not feel right.

She decided to go with her gut and check-in with Kelsey to see what time she would be coming home. Kelsey was dropped off by her dad but in a startling state.
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Schaffen’s Reaction


As Christin stared down at Kelsey she could not believe what had been done to her hair. It had been completely hacked off into a close-cropped pixie cut. Gone were the long blonde tresses that had had her beautiful daughter twirling about with delight.

In their place was this cut which was clearly done against her will. Just what exactly had Schaffen done to her hair and why? Christin would have to get to the bottom of this right away.
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Kelsey’s Tale


As Kelsey wept and began to explain what had happened when she went to Schaffen’s for the weekend, Christin listened with horror. Schaffen and his wife had declared that Kelsey was too young to be dabbling in highlights and makeup which meant she deserved to be punished.

Their punishment for simply dyeing her hair and enjoying her birthday was to have her long hair chopped off which was devastating for her. She went from feeling on top of the world to utter despair.
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Christin’s Response


Christin immediately drove over to Schaffen’s house to find out why he had done this to their daughter. What could have possibly possessed him to think it would be okay to give her a haircut such as this against her wishes.

He was unapologetic and simply said that she should have asked him how he felt about it before allowing it. He said that it should have been a joint parenting decision and since she didn’t consult him, he didn’t need to consult her regarding the punishment.
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Police Involvement


After hearing what her ex had to say, Christin knew that she needed to involve the authorities. She felt that what had been done to Kelsey was a form of child abuse and wanted to see what her options were. Kelsey would not even look at her mother in the eye or leave their house she was so upset by what she looked like.
Police Involvement

It was time for the world to know what he had done and she was not going to let him get away this.
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Another Social Media Post


Christin wanted all of Schaffen’s friends and family to see what kind of father he was and how he had destroyed his daughter’s sense of self-worth by chopping off her hair. Their little girl had always been confident but now that girl was gone.
Another Social Media Post

As soon as her Facebook post went live people began commenting in shock. Very quickly the post was shared and began making headlines around the country and sparking a debate amongst other parents.
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A Ruined Relationship


Now that the world knew what Schaffen had done he began to find it very hard to justify his actions. Everyone was commenting on his lack of parenting skills and how his relationship with his daughter would be forever ruined by his actions.

Schaffen did not apologize to her or admit that he had been wrong, instead, he simply continued on with his life while Kelsey was left feeling miserable. She knew she would have to return to school with her new shorter haircut.
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Moving On


Eventually, Schaffen was taken to court where he lost custody of Kelsey and was forced to pay a fine. Some people felt that this was not enough but the fact that Christin was able to gain this kind of notice for her daughter’s plight was all that she wanted.

With the help of a Go Fund Me page, enough money was raised so that Kelsey could purchase a good wig to wear until her hair grew back.
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The End


Schaffen also ended up losing his job over the very public incident as the city did not want to employ someone who would treat his child in such a manner. Finally, the whole debacle came to an end. Kelsey has been able to move forward and find confidence again with her long brunette wig.
The End

Her hair is slowly growing back and in time she will be able to style it in whatever way she chooses without having to worry about it being cut off. The love and support of the world and her local community have made her feel whole again.