Adjusting to a new family after marriage poses an interesting challenge. On the one hand, we stand to add loving new additions to our lives, while on the other, we may end up developing some bad relationships. Such is the way of life. It is foolish of us to expect to be able to get along with everyone. Mothers-in-law are an indomitable force of nature. Love them or hate them. They make their presence known with their antics.
Those who have supportive mothers-in-law would not relate to the many struggles of the average person. We are familiar with the constant power struggle between a woman and her daughter-in-law; these are some such stories.
Only Said, Never Done
It is vital to teaching children good habits from a young age to carry the lessons with them as they age. From establishing comfortable boundaries to cleaning up after themselves, kids need to learn basic life skills from their families. We should never raise our kids in such a way that promotes them to become slackers as adults.
However, advice like this is easier to digest from someone who has genuinely practiced it, unlike this woman. She advocated the necessity of teaching children to pick up after themselves. The wife could smell the hypocrisy as she observed her husband leave his worn socks in the living room. Guess he didn’t learn to pick up after himself growing up.
When most people speak, there is a wish to start a conversation. It can range from simple storytelling to informing, ranting, and complaining. Fortunately, some people know how to not beat around the bush, but mothers-in-law are not experts in that skill. They will often say something, and by the end, no one understands what point they are trying to make.
Mothers-in-law will often bring up the most random topics, and we are not sure why. Bringing up a random discussion is not the end; they often offer the most irrelevant information. For instance, Dee from the campground had no business being in that conversation.
Finally, a Haircut
Routine hair cuts help tresses stay healthy and prevent split ends. Many people get haircuts to trim unwanted lengths and want to experiment with a new style. Hairstylists have a brilliant superpower of being able to make people feel great. There’s a reason many choose to change their hairstyle when they want to start a new phase of their life.
However, due to the ongoing pandemic, hair bars, salons, offices, shops, and educational institutions were closed. People had to cut their hair themselves. After getting a haircut from her favorite salon, a woman posted her mother-in-law’s reaction to it on social media. The lady seemed to have forgotten that her daughter-in-law had no choice but to grow her hair out.
Cat Litter Replacement
The idea that mothers-in-law are constantly bossy and rude is outdated. They have often reminded their families that even they can get silly sometimes. Bless these small errors because they serve as a reminder that humans are not perfect.
A woman claimed to have found a better alternative to using cat litter for her daughter’s feline. Cat litter is rather expensive for fragranced sand that animals excrete in. She said she had stumbled upon a little sand in the shed that she could put in the litter box. As it turns out, she had found dry cement. We can only hope it did not physically harm the cat.
The Inappropriate Look
There are some unspoken rules of life that everyone must follow. Think of never swiping left or right when someone hands over their phone to show a picture, never leaving a shopping cart in the middle of the aisle, and steering clear of starting drama at a wedding. Perhaps the easiest way to stir up chaos at a wedding is by trying to upstage the bride and groom.
On the list of the most absurd things a mother-in-law has done to spite her daughter-in-law, this woman showed up to her son’s wedding in a white wedding gown. The picture shows how disappointed and angry the bride is, naturally. Wearing whites to a wedding is a big no-no unless the wedding party permits it.
Too Much Information
Social media is where the hubbub is these days. These platforms have created an open stage for people to take and share their opinions. Conversations of varying degrees are welcome, from arguing about legislative decisions to “canceling” someone for their vile activities. And the topic is all fun and games till it revolves around something sensitive – brownie points if it makes eyebrows raise.
Boomers and millennials on social media are a treat to watch. They seldom have control over their words and freely share opinions. These mothers bonded over a super controversial topic that put their daughter/daughter-in-law to shame. There are times and places for these private conversations, and they must understand that.
Parents start craving grandchildren once their kids have found a potential life partner. Once they are done with the initial responsibilities as a parent, they are ready to take on the role of grandparents. It would be wrong to blame them, as the urge to extend one’s lineage is only biological. That being said, it is not okay to pressure couples into bearing children simply so their grandparents can have a little cuddle time with them.
Many people get impatient waiting for the day they see their kids’ kids. One woman took to social media to express her longing for a grandchild, perhaps making a subtle dig at her daughter-in-law, who was not ready to have kids yet.
Body image is a sensitive topic for many. Say the wrong word, which will trigger many negative emotions. At the end of the day, how we feel about ourselves is the only thing that matters. We were not put on this planet to spend our lives earning the validation of others, especially judgmental mothers-in-law. There is no point in mulling over the negatives when we can love ourselves harder.
Certain mothers-in-law have been known to opt for a passive-aggressive approach to show their son’s spouses what they expect of them. They might not say “Lose weight!” up front, but they will certainly not be subtle about it.
Getting married is challenging for a myriad of aspects, and maybe one of the biggest ones is the possible mistreatment from the in-laws. Dealing with prejudice is, unfortunately, something we have all grown to handle by this point. Even if we have been perfect, some people will be critical regardless. It seems as though there is no pleasing them. Something similar happened to a woman having dinner with her husband’s family.
Knowing she didn’t speak their native language, they took advantage of it. They talked badly about her in front of her in a different language. Despite not understanding what was being said, she certainly noted they were unhappy to have her over.
Marriage is scary for numerous reasons. For starters, the notion of starting a new life with another person is not easy. Two people agree to share their lives from the wedding – good or bad. Unfortunately, that also means annoying family members. Weddings rarely go perfectly because the expectations are constantly high, and there will be someone to rise to the occasion and spoil it.
It is sad how that bad luck had to be one woman’s mother-in-law. The woman showed up to the ceremony in an inebriated state. She proceeded to make out with her date for the next two hours in front of the bride’s family. Priorly skeptical of the groom, the bride’s family must have had second thoughts.
That Phase in Time
Life guarantees one thing – change. What we go through decides the kind of person we become. Besides psychological changes, humans are subjected to physical changes, too – especially during their early and late years. Human anatomy is not easy, but a few common, everyday terms can be recalled fairly simply. Puberty is an exciting yet challenging time for girls; her grandmother was aware of that.
Unsure of the correct term for “change,” the woman asked her son whether his daughter had completed her metamorphosis. This term is used to describe the change in the animal kingdom but has no relevance to human terms. The girl’s mother had half a mind to tell her mother-in-law that their daughter had transformed into a bug.
We are not suggesting that two people cannot work through their differences, but staying in touch with someone who has previously broken our hearts is surely not a bright idea. What is horrible is when someone has moved on from their past, but their family refuses to. At times like this, we wonder whether a mother consistently has her son’s best intentions.
Despite his marriage, she kept in contact with many of his exes. He asked her not to contact them again, but she did not honor his words, even going as far as trying to get him back together with a woman who cheated on him. Luckily, the son can see what his mother is doing wrong and stands up to her.
It’s nice to see a woman bonding with her mother-in-law. Sharing life stories is a fine way to get to know each other and form a deeper connection. It must feel great to experience mothers-in-law feeling safe and comfortable enough to express their innermost concerns. However, this woman was not ready for her mother-in-law to flash her on the first day of their meeting.
The clueless woman explained the weird mole on her bosom and a few reproductive concerns. Of course, the daughter-in-law was creeped out. Such unprecedented actions always result in unpleasant aftermath. Being close enough to share deep, dark secrets is one matter, while this is public indecency.
No Vacation Days
Between the hectic days of work, we all look forward to vacation days. They give us a much-needed moment to step back, refresh, and rejuvenate. Plus, vacation days are needed to reconnect with our families, who may not have seen as many of us due to our busy schedules. Eager to spend quality time with his family, a man applies for leave weeks in advance.
However, he was seen working at the office when the vacation days rolled around. Curious, his coworkers wanted to know why he did not utilize his holidays. That was when he explained a scenario most people could relate to. He wanted to avoid his visiting mother-in-law at all costs.
The premise of love marriages is a prior sense of strong attachment and feelings toward a person. We are frequently unlucky in love, choosing to settle for someone who is not compatible. Selecting who to marry is a complex job because we are essentially planning on spending our whole lives with them. This is when we value our parents’ opinions too. We want them to like our spouses.
Parents should reciprocate their feelings by staying respectful of our choices. After all, certain things cannot be undone once done, like what one mother-in-law had to say about her son’s wife. Right after the wife gave birth, she announced she did not want her son to marry her.
Family Board Games
Indoor board games have been entertaining family time for many people over the years. Humans love to bond over fun moments. Having said that, there are times when things get too personal and/or competitive, and it brings out a side in people nobody was prepared to see. More hilarious than harmful, this mother-in-law’s guess to her daughter-in-law’s cue in a game of “Head’s Up” was interesting.
The word was “on fleek,” a pop slang for something that is seemingly perfect. The daughter-in-law prompted the others by suggesting it was how her brows were, and the mother-in-law cunningly pointed out her daughter-in-law’s unibrow. In all fairness, she wasn’t wrong.
Ruined Son’s Wedding Over a Dress
What is your greatest wedding-day fear? My mother-in-law demanded that I change my wedding dress because of how ugly it was. She clarified how much she hated the dress while crushing my confidence and leaving me with doubts.
You can imagine how shocked I was when I saw her attending the wedding in a green version of my wedding gown. Not only this, but she also came to my wife’s parents’ anniversary in the same dress without even apologizing for her behavior.
Kids are major responsibilities, and anyone who is not completely dedicated to rearing and nurturing one should not start a family. Numerous facets have to be considered by couples before they consider having a child. For example, they want to be mentally and financially prepared and assure a child aligns with their present life plans.
During this time, couples must fight off overeager parents who cannot wait to see their grandkids. Their eagerness, more often than not, comes across as insensitive and downright rude. A woman took to social media to share the story of her delusional mother-in-law, who kept assuming she was pregnant. We love how the lady shot her down fiercely.
Persuade Her Son To Not Marry This Woman
When entering a new relationship, you don’t have to be judged by past actions. However, that doesn’t stop some women. One mother tried to convince her son not to marry the woman he had been dating for 6 years. She said that her MIL had written her son a letter one week before they got married, telling him to consider what he was doing carefully and to make sure he was marrying someone he trusted. “We had been together for six very happy years by this time!”
“She later left our wedding in tears and drove home seven hours away!” Without saying anything, she followed up by emailing me that she couldn’t understand what her son saw in me. I refused to contact her, and it was a wonderful year without her. Then I became pregnant, and she crawled back.
The Evil Grandma
Families aren’t only born from blood relations. While biological connections lay the foundation for the strongest relationships, there are many families that were joined by mutual love and care. The true essence of a family can be reflected by how they support and love us. This girl has known her current father since she was two. Over the seven years they stayed together, she grew attached to him and started referring to him as her dad.
Despite not being biologically related, he earned that title by being present in her life. When his mother visited, the little girl accidentally called her grandmother, leading to a meltdown on the mother-in-law’s side. The bitter lady quickly announced that they are not linked by blood.
Hollywood antagonized mothers-in-law to the point where we think they are all villains. In most cases, they are disgruntled old ladies who will calm down after receiving a few verbal lashings. However, there will be the typical villainous mothers-in-law who are hell-bent on ruining their son’s relationship with their current spouses.
A woman showed up with her son’s ex at his wedding unannounced. She was under the misconception that she knew what was better for her son. Perhaps she had forgotten that her son was a grown adult capable of making his own decisions. The unhinged woman then referred to the ex as an option on the wedding day.
Some people do not know the difference between showing concern and meddling in someone’s business. There will never be a good instance where it is okay to tell a woman what to do with her body unless a dangerous medical condition is involved. In this case, we doubt there was something so severe that the mother-in-law had to say such harsh words to a woman on her wedding day.
On the day when she was supposed to marry her lover, his mother asked her to terminate her pregnancy. We can imagine this news did not reach her on the wedding day. Weddings are never the place to create drama or confrontation.
Rumors are like wildfires. They spread at accelerated paces and destroy the way. There are ways to know that our spouse’s family is not fond of us. The truth is, we are allowed to dislike someone as long as we can still be respectful to them. Spreading rumors about her daughter’s boyfriend was not the way to go.
The sad part is that the woman was not his mother-in-law yet. She told the extended family her daughter was expecting, which led to her brothers calling the boyfriend. After double-checking with his girlfriend, he was sure that he had not fathered a child with her. It is safe to assume that he was furious.
When speaking to people, there will be certain no-go zones. These boundaries should not be breached as they trigger negative emotions and cause emotional damage. Unfortunately, strict societal standards have pushed many of us to be rather sensitive about our bodies. This is why losing weight is so liberating for many. We must never forget who we are doing it for – ourselves and a better future.
It is difficult to get everyone on board with the journey, especially mindless critics. A future mother-in-law poked fun at her son’s spouse, who had been working hard to shed those extra pounds. She had lost about 80 pounds, but it was not enough for the woman.
No matter how much someone thrives on harmless drama, they must never initiate it at weddings and funerals. There is something inhumane about stirring disharmony during two key phases of people’s lives. However, some people never grow out of their teenage drama-mongering phase, which shows. A woman’s now-husband’s mother is devoted to creating drama like no one else.
She initially refused to attend her son’s wedding, claiming that she had been to his first, so the second would be no party. His wife was naturally angry as she couldn’t imagine her not being there for her child on his wedding day. However, the hypocritical mother-in-law soon went around telling people she had not been informed about the wedding.
Every parent has some degree of expectations from their child. No matter how unconditional their love is, there are certain performance standards they wish their children would live up to. Having high hopes for a child is one thing, but burdening them with expectations is another. Many people forget the surreal pressure of being unable to live up to a parent’s expectations.
A woman threatened to call 911 on her son after he failed to get the job of her dreams. His tech job was not enough for her as she wanted him to be a lawyer. In tears, she started manipulating him with words and said that he was fighting mental illnesses. She also suggested he visit a psychiatrist.
There is nothing wrong with a little competition unless it is between a woman and her mother-in-law. A woman’s seemingly pleasant mother-in-law turned into a nitpicky, vicious beast who constantly kept being rude and mean to her. The old woman kept complaining about things that happened over two decades ago. She also said cruel things about her children behind their back, making sure to act equally sweet to their faces.
As a result, she and her daughter-in-law had a falling out. It seemed like she was frequently trying to one-up the woman. She casually mentioned how she could do any chore better, how she had more things going on in her life than others, and how no one seemed to get it right other than her.
Trusting someone can often blow up in our faces. The world is a ruthless place where our closest kins might betray us anytime. When a woman shared such private news with her mother-in-law, she did not expect judgment, let alone a public debacle. She told her spouse’s mother how she had terminated a pregnancy in the past. That is something many women undertake but a topic that is not spoken positively about in today’s context.
By 2022 we should be a civilization that recognizes women’s sufferings. Women should not be shamed for choosing freedom. The annoyed mother-in-law took to various social media platforms to reach her pro-life agenda and commanded her son to break up with her.
There is no shame in admitting we all have stories we rather not tell in public. Sometimes they are too sensitive. One topic that should not be discussed out in the open with strangers is someone’s love life. We may know revealing information about another person, but it is common to restrict those tales to ourselves. Indeed, some stories are better left untold.
Imagine the stress this woman endured after she learned her mother-in-law was going around discussing the woman’s private matters with others. She had caught her son and his wife getting cozy and chose to let the whole family know about it. Suffice to say; they did not speak to her for months afterward.
Mothers seem to have a favorite between their children’s love interests. In their mind, that person is a better fit for their child, and they will often stoop to surprising lows to keep them together. If a woman tries to reignite the fire between her son and his estranged lover in subtle ways, that might not be that bad. However, it was quite creepy of this woman to bring her son’s ex into their house while he was still there.
After a while, he got married to his current wife. It took his mother a little time to accept her daughter-in-law, but she finally did. Fortunately, the situation between them improved. Most stories like that don’t have a happy ending.
No matter how great a tenant we are, the risk of eviction is constantly looming over our heads. Landlords don’t usually forgive serious concerns, other times because they are simply bad people. A good tenant pays their bills timely, abides by the landlord’s rules, and takes good care of the living space. Getting evicted due to not paying bills timely makes sense, but specific conditions must be considered.
Three months after her husband had passed away, a woman received an eviction notice from her landlord: her mother-in-law. The woman explained how she would have to handle the taxes and their unwillingness to be landlords. As the bereaved burst into tears, the petty mother-in-law implied her tears made her uncomfortable.
Have a Baby Already
The heteronormative, child-centric ideals of today’s society expect a healthy couple to bear a child into the first two years of their marriage. We all know stories where two people were badgered into conceiving a child by their parents. After a point, they have to be warned against being pushy, like this woman had to be.
Her otherwise sweet gesture was outed to be shallow and selfish as she announced the reason behind it: her longing for a grandchild. This stings as her daughter-in-law struggled to get pregnant for over a year. Naturally irked, the woman told her mother-in-law to back off, or she would not have contact with her future grandchild until they turned 18.
Many people never grow fond of their children’s spouses but hide the fact rather well, choosing to be kind to them at family gatherings. On the other spectrum, we have mothers-in-law who never took a lesson in subtlety. A woman pulled all her viable strings to convince her son that his current spouse was not the right match for him.
After knowing that she was pregnant, instead of being happy with a grandchild’s premise, she told the woman to drop her unborn baby. Of course, the woman denied it. What followed was months of coercing her to terminate the pregnancy. As the mother-in-law stated, the reason was that she did not want her son to have a child with a degenerate.
Dinner Is Served
As children, we form core memories that shape us as adults. Almost all of us have a few childhood traumas that trigger us to this day. Growing up with a pet greatly influences kids, and losing them can be devastating. A woman’s past stopped her from consuming pork. When she visited her ex’s house, his mother had a nasty surprise waiting for her.
Pork was at the center of the table for every dinner she had with them. The woman swore it was a mistake, claiming that her son’s girlfriend was reluctant to eat pork and it skipped her mind. This is rather unlikely as they were together for about a decade.
We usually see mother-in-laws harboring hateful feelings toward their children’s spouses. However, in this case, the woman decided to take out her anger on her daughter. Three hours after her daughter and her lover had tied the knot, she confronted them in the parking lot. She attacked the bridge, saying they were too inebriated.
The couple soon departed for their honeymoon and were reminded of the horrific event for the rest of the journey. The wife’s memory blurred out after getting attacked by her mother. She could notice the scars on her body but did not understand how she had sustained them.
Assuming a woman’s pregnancy is never right; whether they are or not is their personal business. She is allowed to share that news with her families and friends whenever she wishes, super early or late into the pregnancy. If she wishes, she can also choose not to inform anyone around her. No woman must tolerate suggestive remarks about her appearance, specifically not on a day as important as her rehearsal dinner.
Although far from many of the things we have seen on this list, this woman’s ignorant demeanor shows she doesn’t care about her daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law may have been trying to hint at the woman’s weight and her pregnancy chances.
Forgiveness Is a Virtue
Forgiveness is powerful; it is redeeming and refreshing. Nurturing grudges in our hearts will only end up hurting us in the long run. However, there is a fine line between being merciful and letting people get off the hook by doing the bare minimum. We should learn to let go of old matters, but some exceptions are applicable. For example, cheating exes are not entitled to forgiveness.
When this woman learned her husband was cheating on her, forgiveness was off the table. Instead of supporting her broken daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law started consoling her to forgive her cheating son. Cheating should never be excused, no matter the circumstances. It is great to see that the husband became an ex after that incident.
Remembering names is an actual struggle for many people. It’s nothing personal; many of us struggle with getting a name registered to memory. By the general rule, we should remember a person’s name by the third or fourth interaction. There is no way we would forget a close family member’s name. This is why it is so wild that a woman did not know her son’s then-wife’s name for three years.
For three years, she was referred to by her other son’s ex-wife’s name. It is quite possible that they were never close enough for the woman to recall her name easily or she did it on purpose to antagonize her. Either way, we imagine that was bad for the daughter-in-law.
Mothers share special bonds with their sons. Most women fear losing this bond to the appearance of a third party. Mothers cannot be replaced, so it is unnatural for moms to be so alarmed by the presence of a new person in their equation. It is in their nature to be protective of their kids, but they should be mindful of certain limits.
A week before her son’s wedding, she wrote a letter asking him to reconsider his decision. She reminded him that he should be marrying someone he loves and trusts. When the son did not act on her irrational “advice,” she hysterically left the venue. Her daughter-in-law received hurtful mail from her too.
Weddings evoke emotions and feelings we didn’t even know we had, and understandably so. With family dynamics changing, it is a high-pressure hour for everyone involved. Mothers tend to have difficulty adjusting to the involvement of a new person and finally accepting that their babies are all grown up. At her child’s wedding, a woman made a backhanded compliment to her new daughter-in-law.
She told her that her daughter looked better even though the daughter-in-law looked good. Saying things like that should be a criminal offense. On her wedding day, the bride is the center of attention. Nobody should look to upstage her with actions or words.
Keep It Inside
People who don’t know how to mind their business are a big part of what is wrong with the world today. No one asks for their input, yet some choose to intervene. Such behavior can be expected of nosy strangers, but matters worsen when a family member is involved. A woman confided in her daughter’s mother-in-law with a major secret. She told her that she had initially thought about terminating her first pregnancy when they learned of it.
Instead of keeping such sensitive information to herself, the woman passed the information to her daughter-in-law. It is hard to say she had even a shred of good intention. The daughter-in-law must have been shattered.
Handmade gifts hold a value that money simply cannot express. The raw emotion and love that goes into crafting something for a loved one are unmatched. This is why many people prefer meaningful handmade gifts over expensive store-bought ones. When a woman got to know that her son’s wife was preparing gifts for everyone on Christmas, she got impatient. As the gift-exchange session got preponed, the situation worsened.
For two days she demanded her presents. After the daughter-in-law was done knitting them, she handed them over to her mother-in-law. Not only did the bitter woman not express her gratitude, but she had the nerve to exit the room as if nothing had happened.